Letting Go

Letting go of your children is a struggle for most parents. When we consider that nearly twenty years of our lives are invested in raising, nurturing, and caring for our children, it’s easy to see why letting go of that role is a daunting task.

And because I just miss them; their unique and strong personalities, their amazing senses of humor, and of course, just being with them. 

For most parents, child-rearing consumes our time, energy, love, and concern for two decades. We invest our hearts, minds and spirits into their physical, emotional, social and spiritual well-being and it can be very difficult when that part of our lives comes to an end. 

At the heart of the difficulty of letting go of our children is a certain amount of fear. The world is a scary place, and so many stories of terrible things happening increase our fears. When our children are young, we can monitor their every moment, control their environment (yes, I was very good at this part :) and guard their safety. But as they grow and mature, they begin to move out into the world on their own. We are no longer in control of their every move, who they see, where they go, and what they do.

*Tip: When my two older daughters were married, I didn't want to call at night when I knew they had been out for the evening, because you don't want to be that mother-in-law. This is where the benefits of social media come into play. I would just watch Facebook for a post about their evening or them liking someone’s status. If they didn't do either of those things, I would resort to posting a picture of them when they were 9 years old and tag them. I would then get a text saying something along the lines of, "Get that off of their immediately!" And there you have it: I knew they were home safely. 

Seriously though, as a parent, this is where faith enters the picture. Perhaps nothing on earth is more testing of our faith than the time when our children begin to sever the bonds that have held them close to us. Letting go of children doesn’t mean simply turning them loose in the world to fend for themselves. It means turning them over to our God who loves them more than we ever could.

We can find peace by remembering God's promises:

"Entrust your loved ones to Me; release them into My protective care. They are much safer with Me than in your clinging hand.  When you release loved ones to Me, you are free to cling to My hand. 
As you entrust others into My care, I am free to shower blessings on them. My Presence will go with them wherever they go, and I will give them rest. This same Presence stays with you, as you relax and place your trust in Me. Watch to see what I will do."